8 Simple Steps to Resolve Any Conflict Like a Zen Master

2. Respectfully, shut your pie hole

Most of us spend our time in conflict trying to prove why we are right and trying to anticipate what the other person will say so we can refute it. This means we rarely listen, therefore we rarely understand what is really going on. So we rarely find long-term, empowering solutions.  cool stuff for guys cool stuff to buy cool stuff to make cool stuff for kids

We rehash the same conflicts over and over because they never get down to the core issue.

Save countless hours and reduce your stress by investing the time to seek understanding first.

3. Bust out your Sherlock hat.

Imagine that you are a detective.  cool stuff for guys cool stuff to buy cool stuff to make cool stuff for kids

What’s it like to be in their shoes? How has this issue affected their life? What makes things better or worse? What do they think started the problem? How would they want it resolved? How might their life improve if you could see things from their perspective?  cool stuff for guys cool stuff to buy cool stuff to make cool stuff for kids

Engage your thoughtful curiosity with one goal: to understand the other person’s world.

4. Get Zen-like.

It took me a while to understand what people meant by “your Center”, but I get it now. Your Center is a spot about two inches above your belly button. It is a source of great power, both physically and psychically.  cool stuff for guys cool stuff to buy cool stuff to make cool stuff for kids

When you listen from your head, your brain starts commenting and analyzing the correctness of the information. You don’t fully listen. When you listen from your heart, your emotions can get triggered, making you defensive so that you can’t fully understand the other person. And you don’t fully listen.

But when you listen from your Center, it allows you to simply absorb information without taking it personally, so you can fully listen.  cool stuff for guys cool stuff to buy cool stuff to make cool stuff for kids

Imagine that you are literally taking in the sound through your Center into your stomach so that you can digest them before you respond.

It’s an entirely new experience.  cool stuff for guys cool stuff to buy cool stuff to make cool stuff for kids

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